What is the most important life lesson you learned from your mother? Grateful daughters share the wonderful advice they received from Mom.
Never give up
The most important life lesson I have learned from my mother is to never give up. This advice has helped me stay positive, focus on things that are important and stay on course to reach my goals. Life doesn't always travel the path we want, but keeping our chin up and going forward always leads us to the next opportunity. Julee Morrison, Utah
I learned from my mom to never give up on following my dreams. Her dream was to have her children's book published, and she finally had that happen at age 90! The book went on to win awards, and Mom donates a portion of the proceeds to children's charities. She still does book signings, book readings and even parade floats – all with more drive and fun than people half her age. Dr Carole Lieberman, Beverly Hills
My mom, who became a bride, widow and mother all within nine months, taught me tenacity, resiliency and the notion that if you put your mind to something, you can achieve it. Mom valued education and the "experience," so we traveled the world together every chance we got. As a teacher, she passed along the love of reading to me and I became a journalist, leaving Akron, Ohio, for New York City just days after graduating college. I'm proud to be my mother's daughter. Samuella Becker, NYC
My mom has devoted her life to using music therapy and teaching to help those in need. Her favorite saying is "There but for the grace of God go I," and she makes everyone understand that we should be grateful for all that we have. She's a very inspiring woman." Sarah Gorelik, New York City
My mother taught me that showing empathy has the power to change lives, affect change and build bridges. Everything my mother does is undertaken with a sense of compassion and empathy, which works far better than pride and powers. My mom is a hero, she's still gorgeous and she makes me laugh. Nora Sarrawi, Chicago
Don't give up on the people you love. My mom did not give up on my brother (who had behavioral issues), despite all the ways in which he wreaked havoc. Supporting those you love doesn't mean controlling them or trying to force them to change. It simply means: fight for your relationships and fight for your ideals. Give them all you've got. Caroline McGraw, Washington, DC
My mom always tells me to "take everything to God. If he brought you to it, he'll get you through it!" Laura Brady Mihalko, Central PA.
My mom's advice to me was simple: Count your blessings. Jeanie Kitchen Van Scoyoc, Central PA.
Live life your way
I recently lost my 84-year-old mother to lung cancer. When she was diagnosed, she decided that cancer wasn't going to change how she finished her life. She was amazing. Whether you're living or actively dying, choose how you're going to face every day. My mom taught us how to live and how to die with dignity. Joni James Aldrich
My mother taught me something very valuable. She has always told me to be me and to not compete with anyone else because God has given us all unique individual talents. Lucinda Cross, Yonkers, NY
Shut up and listen
My mom always said to me, "Barbilee, you have two ears and one mouth, use them proportionately!" Barbilee Hemmings, East Bay, California
Good advice indeed!
What's the best advice you ever received from your mother?
One of the most important lessons that I have learned in life is to "face your fears." Fears can hold us back from experiencing everything that life has to offer. When we give into fear we limit ourselves. We think we can do only this—go only that far—but no more.
My fear was a fear of failure. I was so afraid that I would fail that I failed to take action. This was a self-fulfilling cycle that kept me from achieving goals that I had in my business and personal life. I was so paralyzed by fear that I did nothing. I would get excited to do something, and get ready to do it—and then the fear would take over and I would quit.
How did I overcome this fear? Phil Keogan, host of the popular TV show, "The Amazing Race," states in his book, No Opportunity Wasted, that "to attack this fear you must first ask yourself a simple question: how do I define success and failure?"
When we define or goals in absolute terms, all-or-nothing, winner-takes-all, it can be overwhelming. I had a fear of failure in launching an online business. My goal was to make $10,000 a month—that is an unrealistic goal for someone just starting out.
I redefined success as being able to generate $300 a month. This was an attainable goal. Once I hit this goal, I aimed higher. The great thing was I was no longer afraid to try. My defining success in realitic terms I was able to take that first step. The saying is true - the first step is the hardest!
By facing my fear of failure through redefining success I was able to grow in my persoanlly life. This growth has enabled me to overcome my fear of spiders and I am working on my fear of heights. Will I go sky-diving this summer? No I am defining success over fear of heights as climbing my ladder and cleaning my gutters. I can do it! Then perhaps I will work up to sky diving!